But don’t worry, here are 15 ways to deal with the feeling of being “unloved” in a relationship and feel better instantly!
1). Assess your own feelings
First and foremost, analyze your own feelings. Think about why you might be feeling this way, what particular thing is bothering you and think whether you are feeling this way because of him or is it something else… Like a bad day at work, maybe? Have you ever felt this way before? When? Ask yourself all these questions before you jump to any conclusions.
2). Talk about it
If you still feel like you are not being treated the way you would like to in a relationship then sit your partner down and talk to him. They don’t lie when they say communication is the key to a great relationship! Who knows, maybe just one good conversation with him will make you realize that you were worrying over nothing!
3). Be direct
Don’t beat around the bush. Don’t give him subtle hints and expect him to understand that you are unhappy about something. Tell him the problem very clearly and explain what is making you feel this way. He will really appreciate your honesty, trust us!
4). Don’t be defensive
Remember that there is a difference between being defensive and direct. Being direct is a positive action, you know what the problem is and you would like to work for a solution. However, the minute you turn defensive, your only motive is to put the blame on the other person! It’s not your fault, it’s simply human nature. But the more you tone it down, the easier it will be to reach a solution and make things better.
5). Listen to his point of view
Yes, you are feeling sad and you probably don’t want to hear anything that counters your argument but it is important that you hear him out as well. Listen to him when he tells you why he didn’t do the things you expected out of him. Is it moving too fast? Did he have no clue you were feeling this way? Give him a chance to explain his actions and keep an open mind.
6). Bring more “together” time in your relationship
Once you have had the conversation, it’s time to figure out how you can get the spark back! How can you spend more time together? Meeting for lunch in between office breaks? Or going for a weekend vacation together? Whatever sails your boat works – just as long as you are spending some quality stress-free time together!
7). Be positive
Things might not be going right for both of you at the moment but that doesn’t mean the bond you two share has weakened. Feel positive about yourself and your relationship to make it through this tough phase. Maybe even try some breathing exercises to relieve that stress!
8). Write down your feelings
If you feel it’s hard to say your feelings out loud then take the slightly easier way out and write them down. Write down every time you feel neglected and why, and then include all these instances in a heartfelt letter for your partner. Again, remember to keep the tone of this letter positive. Remind him how much you love him but also stress on the fact that you are feeling this way and you cannot shake the feeling off!