7 Challenges Every Couple Faces After Moving In Together

Posted by: lukwago J in Relationships April 28, 2017

4). Managing your finances

Money is a topic most couples fight about, especially those who are married or live together. Whether it’s who’s going to handle the electric bill and pay the rent every month to who spends more on groceries and toiletries for the home, there’s no shortage of fights to be hand when it comes to paying for things you share.

“It may not be as simple as splitting everything down the middle because you have different financial priorities,” Holbrook explained. For example, you’ve always hired somebody to mow and edge the yard, but your girlfriend thinks it’s excessive and wants to save money by doing it yourselves. “You’ll have to prioritize the items that you want to spend money on, not just how to split it,” Holbrook added.

5). Spending enough time away from each other

Now that you two are living together, time apart is crucial — just as crucial as time spent together was before you moved in. “Even though you love your partner, your alone time is still important and not an in any way a lack of affection or love,” Holbrook said. “You may have to be more diligent about taking time for yourself, knowing that it serves your relationship in very positive ways.”

This might mean heading out to a local coffee shop to finish up some work instead of doing it on the couch next to your partner. The more you can renew with solo time, the better you can show up and be a supportive partner, added Holbrook.

6). Spending enough quality time together

While living together likely means you go to sleep next to each other every night and wake up to each other every morning, this can sometimes make it difficult to forget scheduling in quality time. “Before you lived together, time together was precious, not to be squandered, but now you might take it for granted because you see the person every day,” explained Claudia Six, Ph.D., sexologist, relationship coach, and author of Erotic Integrity. But try your best not to.

There are numerous ways you both can spend time together without it becoming routine. If you both enjoy exercising, get gym memberships, if you both love cooking, take a cooking class to brush up on your skills together. Since you will now see this person everyday it will take work to keep it interesting. The last thing you want is to start taking each other for granted and issues arise.

7). Intimacy

“One of the keys to great sex is looking forward to it happening,” said Holbrook. “When you live in separate places, having sex takes at least a bit of planning because you have to be together.” Before you lived together, it was probably easy to predict when you’d have sex with your partner. Maybe it was every Friday because that was your date night. However, once you sleep in the same bed every night, you no longer have the opportunity to anticipate sex because it could potentially happen every night.

“Sex may become more casual when you always have the opportunity to do it, so work toward building that anticipation by scheduling quality time and sex,” Holbrook said. “That way you can also clear your head of your responsibilities and really show up for the sexual experience.”

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